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They’re born that way.

Are they?

Aren’t they?

Who?  I’m talking about anybody that does not meet the standard of someone else’s idea of “rightness”.

But what is the measure of “rightness”.  Who gets to decide this and how is that done?

Well… that is one measuring stick with feet on it.   It constantly moves from place to place depending on the society or the person and the time of life that society or person is in.

Have you ever thought about that?

What is your standard of “rightness” by which you judge others?

Jesus told a parable about the unwiseness of building on shifting sand.  In my life I know and accept God as that one unshifting, absolute understanding of “rightness”.

There’s a problem though.

My understanding of Him is NOT unshifting and absolute.  I’ve been growing for 36 years and am still growing – that means changing.

So back to the question.

Are they born that way?

I raise this question because it has “come at me” as someone else’s measuring stick for “rightness”.

My absolutes are being challenged on those grounds.

They were born that way.

I love the challenge.  Bring it on.  Not because I want to prove you wrong but because I want to refine my own beliefs to be sure that I am really growing in understanding of God’s reality.

There is a word… a phrase….that sums up where I am in this dilemma that people are continually faced with and more and more faced with in a society that allows every person so much wonderful freedom.

That word is design.

That phrase is God’s design.


His design is my absolute and I continually pursue an understanding of that absolute.

My understanding of God’s design is not necessarily absolute so let me take THIS moment to point out that he has not given us the seat of the judge and I believe it is for that very reason.  We look on the outward but HE looks at the heart.

So….just because we are born a certain way – whether physically, mentally or emotionally doesn’t mean we are “according to God’s design”.  It also doesn’t mean that we are any more evil than the person who does seem to meet His design.  The only hope of “rightness” that anyone has even on their best day is the “rightness” we receive from Jesus.

My argument for that?     We have ALL fallen and come short of HIS glory (perfection) which he created us in when he created us in his image and likeness.

We live in a world where sin –defined as “missing the mark”  – and confusion abound.  It has been that way since Adam and – if the watchmen are seeing clearly and are to be heeded – we are coming to the end of this era of confusion which all logic would tell you means that such things are coming to fullness and what one teacher calls “ripeness” and like the aroma of the ripened fruit will call our attention to it.

My answer to this dilemma at this point in time is, I guess, a little bit Taoist and a little bit Confucianist — a little bit Martha and I hope all guided by Mary who has sat at Jesus’ feet and partaken of his nature….

To let be and trust the ways and wisdom of God to work it all out in the eternal picture and to keep in my heart the desire to be lifegiving to all who come into my sphere.







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You know, I don’t really have many hits on my blog.  I do like to have the people show up.  It makes me feel connected but still it’s OK if I don’t.  I remind my self why I do this and interestingly, several of the folks who have shown up and communicated have also reminded me why I do this.

These people that I’m referring to are the ones who are talking about their journey to becoming better people.  A journey.  To be a better person.

Better. Saner. Kinder. Stronger. More Fearless.  More loving.  More giving.  Stronger in faith.  Stronger in relationships. Stronger in life.  Healthier perspectives.  Healthier emotions.  This list could go on of course.

Like I said – reminds me why I do this.  This blog has been my place to process.  It’s where I talk it through.  I feel like I’m talking to someone – haha – even when I know no one is stopping by!  I’ve tried at various times through the years to journal but it just didn’t have the same effect.  I knew I was alone.  So I started blogging in 2008, right before moving to Dallas.  Started out with an “up” attitude.  Then it started going down and became erratic.  Then I felt like I needed to back away from this.  If I remember correctly it was at least partly because I didn’t want to vomit my stuff on anyone.  So I stopped for about two years.

But I didn’t stop my forward movement.  

I came back this year because the desire to communicate again welled up in me.  Something shifted in me during the last part of 2012.  It was a good, healthy shift.  I feel like I’ve done some honest to goodness growing up.

Is life perfect? no   Do I still have some regrets?  yes  Could it be that like Jacob I will always walk with a limp?  Probably

But that’s OK.  That is life.

This is good and I’m enjoying seeing this process in other people’s lives.  I am truly blessed with things I read in people’s blogs.  I am blessed that people just want to be better – whatever that may mean to them.  I’m blessed that people are just living life in this world.

I applaud you.

AND I pray for you whoever you are that God will bless your journey and that you will find grace and help every time you need it.


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